Everyone Is Not Trying To Harm You. Relax!

Your wall is up.

You are tense all the time.

You are ready to attack.

If anyone even says what you consider to be the wrong thing, you launch yourself at them, ready to defend what is yours, ready to push them back.

Or maybe, you hide, you retreat behind your tower. You leave the room even though you are still physically visible. You try to please them, to make them happy.

And why?

No one is trying to hurt you right now and yet, you still feel this way. You still react in this way.

In every single relationship you have ever had, you feel in some way attacked and you are always on the defensive, never relaxed, always in competition with whoever you are in relationship with.

You just cannot relax…ever.

And you think this is normal.

You think no one can be trusted because well, people are people and they try but they always drop the ball so OF COURSE, you need to protect yourself.

When will you pay attention to what is really going on and stop reacting as you did when you were 5 years old?

Now, I do not diminish what happened way back when but I need you to see that what is happening today, is…